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How to find your vaginal opening

Find your vaginal opening in 3 easy steps

The easiest way to find your vaginal opening is by feeling with your fingers and looking with a mirror. You can find your vaginal opening during your period or when you’re not bleeding at all.

I know it’s kind of weird to explore down there and period blood can be kind of icky at first but there is nothing to be afraid of. It’s your own body and your own period blood. You cannot break anything down there by feeling and looking. If you get period blood on your hands just wash it off.

By the end of this tutorial, you’ll learn about the parts of your vulva in addition to finding your vaginal opening.

Step 1: Use a hand mirror and place it in between your legs so you can see your vulva. You’ll see something like this:

Vaginal opening

Quick fact!
Your vulva is all the parts you can see outside of your body. Your vagina is inside of you.
Step 2: Use your fingers and spread your inner lips apart

vagina parts
vagina parts

Your vaginal opening is located in between your inner lips so use your fingers to spread your lips apart. You will see something like the above diagram.

Wait but mine doesn’t look like the diagram!
Don’t worry! There are as many different looking vaginas and vulvas as there are different looking faces!
Some inner labia are long and flappy, some stick out, and some are hidden inside the outer labia. Some are longer and some are shorter. They are all completely normal so don’t worry if yours doesn’t look like the diagram. (That’s like saying your face doesn’t look like this :-) smiley face!)
 

Hmmm but I still can’t find or see my vaginal opening!

Your vaginal opening may not look like an open hole like it is in this diagram. That’s because the vaginal opening isn’t just an open space you can see.

When you look at your vaginal opening, it probably looks like there is something blocking the opening. Your vaginal opening leads to the vaginal canal and what you see blocking your opening is just your vaginal canal in its relaxed state.

Think of your vaginal canal as a flattened muscular tube that can become stretch to open up.

Your opening can stretch up to open up like you see in the diagram and can shrink or flatten to its relaxed state. (Remember the vaginal opening can stretch to give birth to a baby!)

Step 3: Push your finger in between your inner lips into the vaginal opening

insert tampon
Use your index finger and insert it into the opening.

Remember your vaginal canal isn’t perpendicular (straight up and down). Your vaginal opening is PARALLEL (sideways) to the ground. So to slide your finger in comfortably, insert it at an like in this diagram here. Just pretend the applicator is your finger.

Your finger will slide inside your vaginal opening and into the vaginal canal. This is exactly how a tampon applicator slides inside.

Your finger should slide in effortlessly. It may feel a bit weird or uncomfortable since this may be a new feeling to you but it should not be very painful.

In this step, you can choose to hold your inner lips apart or not. Whichever you’re comfortable with. Whatever works for you.

What if I break my hymen?
Don’t worry, it is unlikely that you will break your hymen by sliding your finger or tampon applicator inside. The hymen is like a stretchy ring of tissue that can stretch to fit your finger or tampon applicator.
 
What if I accidentally put my finger in my pee hole instead?
It is impossible to accidentally put your finger or tampon applicator inside your urethral opening or pee hole. The urethral opening is too small and doesn’t stretch. Your finger is also too big.
 

Are you still having trouble finding your vaginal opening?

Don’t worry! I have some very helpful tips to find your vaginal opening by looking and feeling:

  • Remember to relax! If you are nervous and tense up, you will also tense up your vaginal opening and it will be harder to slide your finger or tampon in. Sometimes it will just take multiple tries before you become comfortable and relax.
  • Remembering to relax means relaxing your finger too. Don’t just poke at yourself! Your finger will slide in easily if you allow your finger to bend, following the natural angle of your vaginal opening.
  • If you are having trouble sliding your finger or tampon in, try using some personal lubricant. If you are comfortable touching your period blood, that works too.
  • If you are on your period, feel with your fingers where the blood is coming from. Your period blood leaves your body from your vaginal opening.
  • It may be helpful to not look at all and just feel for your vaginal opening using your fingers. It is the only hole your finger can slide into.
  • If you find that you are still tense, just give it a rest and try again in a day. Sometimes that’s all it takes to get comfortable with your body.
If you still haven’t found your vaginal opening yet, leave a comment and tell me which step you are having trouble with.

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About Dedy Wong

Dedy lives in Vancouver, BC and is a 2014 graduate of the University of British Columbia with a B.A. in Psychology. She is the blogger, writer, photographer, and tester for all the reviews and articles on the blog.Her menstrual cycle is around 35 to 40 days long and she has tried just about everything from menstrual cups to reusable pads.

19 comments

  1. Hi, thanks for this article but I still can’t find my vagina hole. I am a virgin and when I open my inner lips all I don’t see any hole anywhere! I have a period so I know it’s not completely closed but why can’t I see anything not even a super tiny hole?

  2. This article is awesome I must say. You helped a lot of girls out there on this problem. Good job :)

    Actually I just met a doctor and saying that I might possibly have a yeast infection (this is so embarrased). So she gave me this cream to apply inside the vagina. So instead of using my finger, can I straight away find the opening using the tube and slid it in? Will it be painful? Actually I’m quite scared. Do reply thank you so much! :)

  3. This article is awesome I must say. You helped a lot of girls out there this problem. Actually I just met a doctor and saying that I might possibly have a yeast infection (this is so embarrased). So she gave me this cream to apply inside the vagina. So instead of using my finger, can I straight away find the opening using the tube and slid it in? Will it be painful? Actually I’m quite scared. Do reply thank you so much! :)

  4. I had trouble finding mine until I was 19 or 20. I found-and still find-it more easily when aroused. We have animalistic, instinctual knowledge that have allowed us to have vaginal intercourse and to give birth since the dawn of time. I had trouble finding it because I think and worry all the time. Once I stopped, I knew.

  5. I have read stories of girls and wives that have their significant other do the insertions happily and very easily because they have the advantage of seeing and feeling the process with great accuracy! Enjoy the super GOOD companionship, he is a KEEPER! God bless you for having such a wonderful partner, don’t lose him!

  6. Thanks for the great article. Over the last five years I’ve tried to use a tampon every now and then, but struggled with finding the opening and gave up. When I did think I found it, even with slight insertion of a tampon or my finger I started to feel dizzy and pretty strange. I don’t know if I just psyched myself, but it’s put me off since. I have a feeling I have a really small opening, and that’s also the problem. Any thoughts — whether getting dizzy is possibly just a psychological thing or if it should be something to be concerned about?

  7. Hello! your article is by far the most comforting one I’ve discovered yet on this topic, however I’m still having a fear of inserting even just a finger inside.

    Can you please give me some advice? I’m 20 years old and have never had anything inside of there. It’s depressing because I’m in a relationship and we recently brought myself a sex you so I can go at my own pace, but I don’t want to go from a sex you, straight to a penis. If I can’t even work a finger in, how am I supposed to use a you! please please please respond. :(

    • Hello Kris,

      Thanks so much for your comment! There are many young women who are 20 years old and have never explored their vagina and that is okay. I am happy to hear you are going at your own pace. Whatever you are comfortable with and works for you is the best pace to go.

      I used to have a fear of putting my finger inside too but as I became more comfortable with my body, it became easier to feel comfortable with the idea of tampons too. Just remember to have short finger nails and wash your hands first. Using your finger is the easiest way because you can feel for the opening with both your finger and your vulva skin area. Just explore your body at your own pace and eventually you will become more comfortable and relaxed with the tampon insertion process.

      Let me know if you have any questions okay Kris?

      xoxo,
      -Dedy

    • Boy how I wish this was actually going to get posted without moderation. You have got to have one of the best times at parties with the stories that these girls tell you! What the hell do they think they have down there? A tooth snarling fire breathing sacrificial bloodletting that occurs once a month? Don’t get your fingers near it, it has sharp teeth! I bet they would believe that too! I think they need to make a tampon shooter for these girls! It’s the same as a salad shooter but you just load your favorite tampon and fire away. One of them is sure to hit the spot! For the girl below that sees 7 holes, perhaps a tampon shooter that takes tracer rounds and has a tactical flashlight and a mirror so you can fire into those 7 spots and possible hit one!

      Thanks for making my morning on this one. I will be thinking of this all day and laughing. ….Quack!

  8. Thanks so much!! I can finally wear a tampon… Thanks for making such a useful site!

  9. Thx so much up can finally get rid of the pads and start fresh with tampons!

  10. I need help they say there is only 3 wholes but I see like 7 there is whole inside of whole and I can’t find my vagina

    • 7 Huh? Perhaps you need to go to the Optometrist before trying this again. I suggest you have someone else drive too!

    • Hello Red_favs sister,

      Your “area” will normally appear to have 2 holes and your anus would be the third that people talk about.

      Your vagina (the main hole) also has a series of glands inside of it which sometimes are visible. which would be the Bartholin’s Glands — Which produce the lubrication (Mucous)

      There is also another gland which some women don’t have or aren’t as visible as others, that would be the Skene’s Glands and they are widely discussed at the moment and it has been associated with female ejaculation.

      So, if you can ejaculate, that means you have something that some women don’t have and you should feel a bit special to be honest! Female ejaculation is supposed to feel way better than a regular orgasm (But both feel fantastic!)

      Anyway, good luck!

      – Tina

  11. Thanks so much!! I can finally wear a tampon now!!

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