The easiest way to find your vaginal opening is by feeling with your fingers and looking with a mirror. You can find your vaginal opening during your period or when you’re not bleeding at all.
I know it’s kind of weird to explore down there and period blood can be kind of icky at first but there is nothing to be afraid of. It’s your own body and your own period blood. You cannot break anything down there by feeling and looking. If you get period blood on your hands just wash it off.
By the end of this tutorial, you’ll learn about the parts of your vulva in addition to finding your vaginal opening.
Your vaginal opening is located in between your inner lips so use your fingers to spread your lips apart. You will see something like the above diagram.
Some inner labia are long and flappy, some stick out, and some are hidden inside the outer labia. Some are longer and some are shorter. They are all completely normal so don’t worry if yours doesn’t look like the diagram. (That’s like saying your face doesn’t look like this :-) smiley face!)
Your vaginal opening may not look like an open hole like it is in this diagram. That’s because the vaginal opening isn’t just an open space you can see.
When you look at your vaginal opening, it probably looks like there is something blocking the opening. Your vaginal opening leads to the vaginal canal and what you see blocking your opening is just your vaginal canal in its relaxed state.
Think of your vaginal canal as a flattened muscular tube that can become stretch to open up.
Your opening can stretch up to open up like you see in the diagram and can shrink or flatten to its relaxed state. (Remember the vaginal opening can stretch to give birth to a baby!)
Use your index finger and insert it into the opening.
Remember your vaginal canal isn’t perpendicular (straight up and down). Your vaginal opening is PARALLEL (sideways) to the ground. So to slide your finger in comfortably, insert it at an like in this diagram here. Just pretend the applicator is your finger.
Your finger will slide inside your vaginal opening and into the vaginal canal. This is exactly how a tampon applicator slides inside.
Your finger should slide in effortlessly. It may feel a bit weird or uncomfortable since this may be a new feeling to you but it should not be very painful.
In this step, you can choose to hold your inner lips apart or not. Whichever you’re comfortable with. Whatever works for you.
Don’t worry! I have some very helpful tips to find your vaginal opening by looking and feeling:
- Remember to relax! If you are nervous and tense up, you will also tense up your vaginal opening and it will be harder to slide your finger or tampon in. Sometimes it will just take multiple tries before you become comfortable and relax.
- Remembering to relax means relaxing your finger too. Don’t just poke at yourself! Your finger will slide in easily if you allow your finger to bend, following the natural angle of your vaginal opening.
- If you are having trouble sliding your finger or tampon in, try using some personal lubricant. If you are comfortable touching your period blood, that works too.
- If you are on your period, feel with your fingers where the blood is coming from. Your period blood leaves your body from your vaginal opening.
- It may be helpful to not look at all and just feel for your vaginal opening using your fingers. It is the only hole your finger can slide into.
- If you find that you are still tense, just give it a rest and try again in a day. Sometimes that’s all it takes to get comfortable with your body.
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